The following are basic rules regarding divorce. It is extremely important that you understand them completely, so please study them carefully. Keep this document to refer to throughout the course of your case.
Remember, however, that these are just some of the basic rules and are not substitutes for detailed discussions with your attorney and his or her staff. If you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask.
Deciding to Get a Divorce
At the outset, you should be absolutely sure that your marriage is beyond saving. If you are uncertain, you should encourage your spouse to join you in marriage counseling, and a counselor can help you with emotional problems much more effectively than your attorney.
If you find you are experiencing emotional problems, please employ a professional counselor for your personal benefit. Your attorney is a specialist in law, not psychology or marriage counseling, and a counselor can help you with emotional problems much more effectively than your attorney.
Also, a new field of development is “divorce counseling”, which consists of individual sessions or group sessions designed to assist persons through the emotional trauma of a divorce. Similar programs are also available for children. Although somewhat new on the horizon, these programs seem to be getting very high marks. Many persons, approaching these programs with much skepticism, have reported them to be life savers and well worth the time and money.